Why You Don’t Need New Years Resolutions
What you need is clarity on what you want
How many New Years Eve’s have we been caught up in the moment (and a few glasses of champagne deep) talking about all of the things we are going to do differently and maybe even change about ourselves on January 1st. You know, all of the things that we probably didn’t prioritize and take action on. The things that usually come along with words like “should”, “want”, and “hope” without a real plan as to how we’re going to bring them to life.
My advice? Instead of skipping ahead and identifying all of the things you want to do as soon as the clock strikes midnight - pause and ask yourself what the fu*k you want. Huh? Yes I know, the concept is startling isn’t it. But have you ever stopped to think about maybe the reason you aren’t executing on all of the “should’s”, “wants”, and “hopes” is because you haven’t truly stopped to ask yourself:
What do I want?; and
How bad do I want it?
Yep, that’s where it gets real. I mean easy enough to identify what you do want right? Things like, more time to do things I want to do like read, run, sew (whatever - that’s for you to decide), but if you aren’t consciously taking action to create that space in your life how is it going to happen? Problem is, most of us start by looking at what is already on the agenda (usually dictated by other’s priorities and expectations) and then fitting in what we want around those things. In short, not making it a priority and putting ourselves and what we want second.
If you want this year to be different, you have to take action in a different way. First and foremost What do you want and need in your life so that you can show up as your best self? Perfect - schedule it. Like right now. I know, crazy talk am I right? You want to go to Yoga a few times a week - schedule it. You want to get together with your girlfriends more often - book it. You want more family time - start setting boundaries. You want more time to yourself in general - then say no to things that don’t fill you up.
For most of us our life is happening TO us. We are living on autopilot letting everyone else’s priorities dictate ours and what we are left with is very little (if any) quality time for what is truly important to us and getting us one step closer to what we want out of this life.
“The only list you should be making and checking it twice is whatever you want out of this life…”
So instead of New Years Resolutions this year, my suggestion is this:
Decide what you want and what is most important to YOU and your family;
Create and commit to non-negotiables;
Say NO to anything that will compromise your priorities.
Drastic measures? Maybe. But if you are depleted by living your life to the expectations of others to only circle back to this moment every champagne induced New Years Eve - well, maybe this is exactly what you need to shift things into a new direction. A new version of you and one that is truly living her best life beyond a hashtag.
Happy New Year Friends - xo
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My version of Personal Growth isn’t changing who you are, but getting back to who were before everyone told you who you should be. My version helps you get back to YOU!