Well, in my humble opinion anyway. I’ve never been one to make resolutions, and based on the fact that only 7% of those who do make resolutions actually stick with them beyond January is probably a good indication that I’m on the right track.
I’m going to try my best to not run off on a tangent here, but stay with me. Specific times of year bring with it specific things that we should be feeling and doing: Holidays = merry & bright; Thanksgiving = thankful & gratitude; Easter = chocolate – non?; New Year = suddenly change into a completely different version of yourself by setting goals, swearing off anything that tastes good and losing an obscene amount of weight (and yourself) in resolutions. What’s also interesting to me is that within a two-week time frame between approximately December 15 – 30 you are supposed to go from being joyful and loving all that is to suddenly changing everything about yourself as you know it. Similar to that of the shelves at Target switching from Christmas to Valentine’s Day, you too are supposed to follow suit.
Somewhere between turkey leftovers (and jogging pants on repeat) I picked up my first video game controller EVER. It was not good guys. The game of choice? Cars 3 – I mean, seems easy enough right? rated for all players and based on the fact my 3-year old could somehow manage to make his way through 3 (very painful) laps, there was no doubt that I could too. So do you know what happens when you go at full speed while trying to make a hard turn? you crash, badly. Do you know how you do successfully turn and get back on track (hopefully collecting coins and turbo passes along the way)? you adjust, slowly and maybe even cautiously the first few times.
THIS is how I approach my life, not each New Year. And this is why I believe I don’t feel the need to change everything about myself in epic proportions every January 1 and continue to eat more pumpkin pie leftovers than I care to admit (does scooping out the inside and leaving the crust count as not eating the entire pie? just asking for a friend).
There are a LOT of posts out there floating around on New Years Resolutions. Is there a one size fits all approach? seriously, when was one size fits all ever a good idea? We all have different things that drive us, inspire us and fuel us, but I do believe that deep down we all have a desire to make adjustments and tweaks to get us on the path headed straight towards whatever it is you are headed towards.
So get clear. Clear on what you want out of life and this year and ditch the resolutions. Because the other thing about resolutions is that a lot of times they are “fixed” and don’t allow for room to adjust and bend. Write in your own words what you want out of this year and the things that you need to do to start working towards it. What behaviours do you need to adjust? What patterns do you need to break? What thoughts do you need to replace? Who do you need to spend more or less time with? (gasp!) and most important – what does it feel like? If you’re like “huh?”, keep reading.
For me I have no problem visualizing my goals, the things I want to accomplish, what it will look like and how it will feel. Where I get stuck, and where I think we ALL get stuck is when that inner voice starts to rear its ugly head and get really, REALLY loud. You know, things like: you can’t do that, you’re crazy, good luck, people will judge you, you’re an idiot, you’re not smart enough, you don’t have enough time, you’re a mom, blah blah blah blah blah. You get the drift. So goals, resolutions, epic plans – all fine and dandy, but be prepared to fall (or crash into the wall) if you aren’t going to change how you respond to that inner voice (insert sigh…..cuz you kinda know it’s true).
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