You know those days that you just want to start over? Yesterday was one of those days. It started off somewhat on track but quickly derailed when my 2-year old spilled a large coffee on me (by ‘me’ I mean me wearing a crisp white shirt and cream long coat – yeah, exactly). I should have taken this moment as a sign that the rest of the day would more than likely follow suit. I’m going to be honest with you – I don’t have “bad days” that often. It’s not because I live or have a perfect life, but instead because I choose perspective whenever I can. The reality is I would rather put whatever energy I do have into positive things rather than continuing to hit the repeat button on the not-so-positive ones (sigh, I know – but sometimes it does feel good to vent over and over, doesn’t it?).
After I had moved on from my sparkling clean outfit turned disaster, I was able to get my stride back and was feeling great about my day – until it was derailed, again. This time it came in the form of an email. An email from someone who had come across my Blog and wanted to pass along some “feedback”. To summarize it included words like “cringe when I read it”. We all have those moments. The moments that hit us when we least expect it. I am not immune to this kind of thing. I have some interesting things arise since starting this Blog of mine but for some reason this one hit me where it hurt the most.
After giving myself permission to have a emotional pity party (that also included eating a sprinkled donut) I decided that I wasn’t going to let it ruin my day. We have a choice to make in situations like this – let it consume us (i.e. believe whatever someone else’s opinion is) or figure out why it triggered an emotion within us. Call me crazy but I love it when I come face-to-face with an emotion that stops me in my tracks. Its a hidden gem of sorts (like I said – call me crazy) and an opportunity to do some soul-searching work to figure out what the “real” emotional block is.
We often get caught up in the details or specifics of an event, situation or exchange of words when something causes an emotional stir within us. Labelling things as true or untrue or creating a story based on assumptions. Yes the words in the email “hurt” but I also know that it is one person’s opinion and based on how many people show up and read my Blog every single day – it’s just that, an opinion. When something (ah hm, usually “someone”) creates an emotional charge in you, start to ask yourself what it is that bothered you or upset you. Not like a “he said, she said” kind of thing, but ask yourself the tough questions. Was it true? Is it something that you might not be willing to admit or own? Every time our emotions get stirred up, is an opportunity to go within and ask ourselves the tough questions.
You have a choice every time you experience a negative emotion. Hit the repeat button and direct the blame onto someone else or figure out what it is inside of you that needs to do some emotional healing. That person (i.e. opinion) was simply a guide to whatever it is.
p.s. If hope this Blog Post didn’t make you cringe 😉