Perspective. Its around us all of the time but we are usually too caught up in our thoughts and self-judgement to see it. Don’t believe me – sit in silence for just 1 minute and take notice of all of the thoughts that go through your head (if you don’t know what I am talking about they usually show up in the form of judgement, criticism and guilt – sigh).
I’ve been stuck in a place of “guilt” lately and it’s not exactly a feeling that I am all that comfortable with. I know, it’s strange. I am the polar opposite of most women when it comes to guilt, so much so that some might even label me as “selfish” (gasp!!!). I am a believer in the mindset of being good to yourself so that you can be good to others, but the moment you swap out “being good” for “investing” which in many ways is the same thing, something about my perspective shifts thus leaving me with an overwhelming feeling of guilt.
This past year seems to be the year of investing in “me”. From time, to yoga teaching training, to a new website, to another exciting project on the horizon – although these are all things that I want (and need) in my life, they all come with an overwhelming feeling of guilt. Not like “I shouldn’t have bought those jeans guilt” but giant-like-dragging-a-weight-around-guilt.
By definition the word “invest” means to: expend money with the expectation of achieving a profit or material result by putting it into financial schemes, shares, or property, or by using it to develop a commercial venture. In other words, a tangible return – agh yuck. How many times have you found yourself stuck – maybe with a feeling because what you know and feel to be true doesn’t add up to whatever Webster’s Dictionary says? No wonder we have all been stuck with the guilt of investing in ourselves. Without the material goods, what do we have to show for it?
While in planning mode the other day I was messaging back and forth with someone about an upcoming project. We were talking about costs associated with it (i.e. investment) and I said “agh – it just feels as though this is the year of investing in me and I feel SO guilty about it”. This was her response (without hesitation or delay):
“think about how much you have invested in your family and your children and your community. By investing in yourself you’re only putting a better version of yourself forward for the people in your life who will thank you for it later.”
Think about how different the conversations would be in our heads if tossed aside traditional definitions and instead chose to look at our experiences, opportunities and investments from a different perspective. What if we chose to look at our experiences, opportunities and the investments we make in ourselves from a place of how we will better ourselves, how we will grow and most importantly how we will feel because of it. The truth of the matter is investing in yourself is not selfish – it’s actually the least selfish thing you can do for you, and for those around you. Like she said, “by investing in yourself you’re only putting a better version of yourself forward for the people in your life who will thank you for it later”.
What would you invest in when it comes to YOU?