Even when I was little, surrounded by all of my friends at my birthday party I was start to cringe with the thought of all of the attention on me. I know, it’s shocking (and I’m sure my siblings are thinking “uh huh, whatever”). As much as I love the idea of all of my favourite people being gathered for a good time and celebration, when it comes to the reality that they are indeed there to celebrate “me” – well, the feeling leaves me with emotions similar to that endured during the first three months of pregnancy. I think it’s safe to say that a lot of us feel this way – that as much as we desire, maybe even crave – attention – when it comes to fruition it makes us uncomfortable. It still makes me uncomfortable – whether it be in real life or through a text message – being told that you are great, wonderful, celebrated, inspiring leaves me feeling uncomfortable – like being 5 again wearing panty hose that are too small.
I have spent the last 7 months in Yoga Teacher Training – and one of those weekends stuck out to me, one that ultimately changed the way I see myself – and others. That through the understanding that everything we see in everyone else – good, or bad – is simply a reflection of what we have yet to “own” within ourselves. The eye opening part about this for me was that when I looked around the room all I saw were these glowing and amazing qualities around me. In fact – I even struggled to see “bad” things around me for the most part (alright, relax – I’m not totally in denial about the fact I have not-so-great qualities) but it goes to show how good we are at labelling and owning those not-so-great qualities within ourselves rather than owning and celebrating the really great ones (insert a celebratory cocktail).
Much like anything in life, the more you focus on the “not-so-good” the more you manifest it. As much as I was moving forward this past year I also held onto a lot of resistance that I now know was a mix bag of “what ifs”, sprinkled with “self doubt” and finished off with “not owning my good qualities” like a giant maraschino cherry on top (I mean seriously – who likes those?). Just notice – notice when you look at someone else and think something really amazing about them. Hey crazy lady – it’s in you – you can only recognize what is already in you. When I finally started to own the “good” things, this whole new life of mine took a major sharp turn.
Here are the 37 (ah hm, just gave away my age) mini-life rules that I live by (insert drumroll):
- It has never been a better time to re-write your story than it is right now.
- Align your thoughts and actions with the person you want to be.
- Your brain believes everything you tell it. Feed it positive words.
- Appreciate every single day, because you don’t know what tomorrow brings.
- Find gratitude for everything. Everything.
- Believe in yourself beyond measure. If you don’t, who will?
- Do not judge others and do not let others judge you. It is probably inaccurate anyway.
- You are responsible for your life.
- You are stronger than your excuses.
- Stop using the word busy. It’s not a competition and you sound ridiculous. We all choose our busy.
- Listen to your gut. It is always right (seriously).
- Fear of failure is paralyzing (ah hm – those self-limiting what if doubts that creep in).
- Live presently. Life is happening around you all of the time. You are probably just too busy to notice it 😉
- Love yourself shamelessly, confidently and unconditionally – you’ll totally annoy the people who shouldn’t be in your life (aka: unfollow or unlike “friend” – I get them on a daily basis!).
- Nobody can define your worth. Not even your boss.
- Don’t let any title define you or take it too seriously, unless its Supernova.
- Things always work out the way they are supposed to.
- The energy you put out is the energy you get back, make it positive.
- Be kind to others. It’s just that simple.
- Everything you need is already inside you. You just need to realize it.
- Surround yourself with people who inspire you.
- You are enough.
- For every moment you are wishing and hoping you aren’t really living.
- Live with no regrets.
- Happiness is contagious. Surround yourself with happy, positive people, and watch your own happiness grow.
- Live your own life and don’t compare it to others.
- Don’t complain about something you aren’t willing to change.
- Start looking at yourself the way your biggest admirer does. Um, you’re pretty amazing!
- Choose your friends wisely. Surround yourself with people who lift you up.
- Show up and work hard. Life isn’t about handouts.
- Let it go. The body only holds onto emotions from a physiological sense for 90 seconds. We choose to keep hitting the repeat button (seriously – take your hand off of the button).
- Root daily decisions in health, fitness and nutrition as they are the very core of how you function.
- To be your best self you must be good to yourself.
- You hold the power to feel confident, happy and proud to live in your own skin – YOU just need to believe it.
- Express yourself through style and fashion – on your terms, no rules, no judgement.
- Find what inspires you to live your life with passion. You deserve to live a full and beautiful life.
- Celebrate you everyday. Whatever it is. Celebrate yourself so much that it doesn’t make you cringe and uncomfortable like being 5 again wearing tights that are too small (was I seriously the only one that is clearly scarred by this?).
What are you celebrating today? (other than your amazing self)